For fans of Jennette McCurdy’s I’m Glad My Mom Died, a memoir for daughters who recognize that to truly understand themselves and the patterns of their lives, they must first understand their mothers and the forces that shaped these women.

When Margaret Whitford’s mother was dying, she told those present that her daughter “had her history.” This was true; Margaret had conducted interviews with her mother during the last decade of her life. But this didn’t end their estrangement, and Margaret chose not to return to her mother’s side during her final days.

In this memoir, Margaret confronts this decision by unearthing in her mother’s traumatic history the roots of the emotional distance between them. She explores how a history marked by the devastation of World War II in Europe, a violent childhood home, and sexual assault accumulated into complex PTSD that shaped her mother and the way she parented Margaret as her firstborn and as a daughter—and, in turn, how Margaret carried her mother’s trauma forward in her sense of self, in her relationships to others, and in the ways she navigated her world. Indeed, Margaret not only had her mother’s history—she embodied it.

Ultimately, The History We Carry confronts the legacy of intergenerational trauma with wisdom and compassion, revealing how familial history shapes each of us but need not be wholly determinative of whom we become and how we choose to live.

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About the Author

Margaret Whitford’s writing has been nominated for the Pushcart Prize and has appeared in Water～Stone Review, Brevity, Under the Gum Tree and other publications. Her work often explores the theme of refuge—how we find shelter, both physical and emotional, for ourselves and those we love in an unstable world. She is especially drawn to personal essays for their rich literary possibilities and to memoir as a way to interrogate personal experience and illuminate what it means to be human.

Before turning to writing, Margaret spent twenty years in leadership roles within the nonprofit sector, including a decade working to advance social justice. These experiences continue to inform her writing, particularly her interest in the intersection of identity, belonging, and community.

A native of Philadelphia, Margaret attended the Philadelphia High School for Girls and later earned a BA in International Relations and French from the University of Pennsylvania, graduating summa cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa. She also holds an MBA from The Wharton School and an MFA in Creative Nonfiction from Chatham University.

Margaret's diverse academic background and love of language nurture her appreciation for the moments and rhythms of daily life, whether in the United States or abroad. A dedicated Francophile, with her husband, she divides her time between Concord, Massachusetts and a small village in Provence.

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