Are you suffering from a personal energy crisis?Are you constantly running through your day, feeling chronically exhausted? Are you desperately overcommitted? Do you find yourself sacrificing your health, family time and quality of life just to meet the never-ending demands on your time? Are you exhausted when you go to bed at night and still tired when you awake? If the answer is yes to any of the above questions, then you may be suffering from a personal energy crisis.
Unfortunately, this way of living — and working — not only robs us of our health and puts a strain on time and energy resources, it blocks our access to our most essential sources of energy, leaving us feeling physically, mentally, and emotionally drained.
In his new book, Energize Your Life, Dr. Del shows you simple things you can do everyday to fuel your life and work with positive energy. Drawing from his years of experience consulting with executives, entrepreneurs, small business owners, career changers and self re-inventors, as well as the wealth of new research over the past two decades on positive psychology, employee engagement and play, Dr. Del demonstrates how you can program the brain — and the subconscious — for productive, beneficial action.
Energize Your Life is different from other positive energy books and personal energy management programs. Its unique advantage is that it shows you how to fuel your life and work with positive energy from seven distinct sources.
And why is it important to increase your daily dose of positive energy? Well, several studies have clearly demonstrated that chronic stress and negative energy shuts down the creative problem solving brain, slows your productivity and puts you in fight or flight mode where very little gets done.
Energize Your Life will challenge and inspire you to develop a personal action plan to fuel your life and work with positive energy everyday. Thereby, improving your personal well being, enhancing your work engagement, and helping you feel more alive.
The 7 Pillars of Positive Energy
1. Ignite Your Passions…Fuel Your Purpose
Passion energizes. Purpose motivates.
2. Accelerate Your Personal Evolution
Self-awareness leads to emotional maturity, which frees us to respond differently.
3. Cultivate Physical Vitality
Physical vitality expands our energy capacity.
4. Become a Conduit for Positive Energy
Positive energy attracts. Negative energy repels.
5. Practice Positive Psychology
Positive thoughts and emotions program the brain (and our subconscious) for positive action.
6. Increase Your “Prosocial Behavior”
Simple acts of kindness, good for the doer too.
7. Give Yourself Permission to Play
Play increases our capacity to respond appropriately to the unexpected.
Chapter 5: Become a Conduit for Positive Energy
“Positive energy attracts. Negative energy repels.” – Del Millers
Pillar #4: Positive Energy
It was December 2013, and I was flying home to Los Angeles from Charlotte, NC via Chicago O’Hare airport. Unfortunately, flying through Chicago in the winter during bad weather automatically spells delays and canceled flights. And that was exactly the case. The flight that was supposed to leave before mine from Chicago to Los Angeles was canceled. And so was mine.
Imagine being one of those American Airline attendants that night trying his or her best to accommodate 300 angry, stranded passengers.
But, as I stood in line that night waiting my turn to talk to the attendant, I made a radical decision to adopt a positive outlook about my situation. I had every right to be as pissed off as everybody else in that terminal, but I chose instead to focus on one thought to the exclusion of all others: “I am on the next flight to Los Angeles.”
I kept repeating that one single thought in my head over and over again with a single mindedness of purpose. I would also look at the attendant every so often and send her a silent message — “you’ve got a seat for me on that next plane, I know it.”
By the time I reached the counter, I was told that the next flight was fully booked. I looked at the attendant with a smile and said, “rough night isn’t it, Nancy?”
“You have no idea,” she replied with a sigh.
Then with a smile I said “Nancy, I know you’re probably all booked up, but I’ve got an event in Los Angeles tomorrow and I’m the keynote speaker, so I would be forever grateful if you could somehow get me on the next flight out tonight.”
She said, “Mr. Millers we’re all booked up, but please have a seat and I will see what I can do.”
Fifteen minutes later, I was standing in line with a boarding pass in hand, waiting to board my flight to Los Angeles.
Yes, I know the pessimists would say that I just got lucky. But did I?
Or did I create the right conditions that led the universe to conspire in my favor?
The truth is, I don’t know. All I know is that I was sitting on the next flight home while most of the angry people were on their way to a hotel for the night.
Here’s what I do know for sure.
My positive optimistic attitude allowed me to stop thinking about myself long enough to empathize with Nancy’s situation. When I said to Nancy, “rough night, isn’t it?” I genuinely meant it, and she felt that.
Here’s something else I do know for sure.
When you go out of your way to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see things from their perspective, it often creates a win-win situation. You’ll find that most people will go out of THEIR way to accommodate your needs.
Now, I don’t know what exactly Nancy did that night to get me a seat on that last flight out of Chicago to Los Angeles, but I’m certain she went out of her way to accommodate me.
Why would she do that?
Positive energy attracts positive results and people to you. Negative energy repels.
There’s a lot of negativity in the world. We are surrounded by it. It’s inescapable. You hear about it every time you turn on the television. It’s thrown in your face when you walk out the door and have to listen to your neighbor complaining about how much he hates his dead end job. Again!
The world is filled with negative energy because it boosts television ratings and helps to sell newspapers and magazines. Negative energy is controversial, provocative, and confrontational. Just watch an episode of most Reality TV and you’ll see what I mean.
Positive energy, on the other hand, is subtle, purposeful, and uplifting. It’s the kind of energy that gives you the momentum you need to move in the direction of a larger vision for your life.
Positive energy is like a magnet. It attracts positive people and positive results into your life.
But how can you become a conduit for positive energy in a world obsessed with sensationalism, controversy, and fear?
You cultivate positive energy by taking positive actions every day. Or as Jon Gordon puts it in his book, The Energy Bus, you must “feed positive dog:”
A man goes to the village to visit the wise man and he says to
the wise man, “I feel like there are two dogs inside me. One dog is
positive, loving, kind, and gentle dog and then I have this angry, mean-spirited and negative dog and they fight all the time. I don’t know
which is going to win.” The wise man thinks for a moment and he says,
“I know which is going to win. The one you feed the most, so feed
About Del Millers
Dr. Del Millers is the founder of TheBestYouAcademy.com, EnergizedLifeAcademy.com, and author of eight books on nutrition, fitness, and personal growth.
A PhD Nutritionist with a Masters degree in psychology, Dr. Del teaches simple mind-body principles to busy entrepreneurs and professionals to help them energize their lifestyle, improve their personal wellbeing, and enhance their work engagement.
Dr. Del has appeared on FOX Television (Good Day LA), E-Entertainment TV (DR 90210), numerous nationally syndicated radio shows, and in magazines, and newspapers throughout the United States and Australia (LA Sports & Fitness, Australian Ironman, Health & Fitness, Stuff, Fighting Fat and others).
Dr. Del’s greatest passion is sharing what inspires him with others. He lives in Los Angeles, California with his wife and three daughters.
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